International Make-Up Lesson

My dear friend Nikki lives in Toronto, and because of that we don’t get to see each other as much as I would like. Fortunately for us, technology has helped  in communicating by way of videochat.

There have been instances where she would show me how she applied her makeup before work. Since she is a make up guru and my dear friend, I asked her to do a makeup tutorial and was excited when she agreed. I used Too my Faded French & Fabulous palette (bday gift from Toni), and a Revlon lipstick given to me by none other than the guru herself. The following is my new wear to work face.

Too Faded palette

Eye shadow

Blush

lightly colored lips

Complete look

I will wear this look for the next week at work.

 

Thanks Nikki, I love you lots ❤

 

My Bucket List

Today, I hung out with my friend Joanne. Our time together usually consists of us talking about what has happened in our lives since the last time we saw each other (which usually doesn’t last longer than 2 weeks), and how each of us are doing with our bucket list.

About a year ago, we each drafted a list of things we wanted to do, a bucket list so to speak. Except our list doesn’t include things that we will like to do before we die, but each includes things that we want to do in the near future. So far, we’ve been doing well with it, but we still have a lot of things to get to.

Below are some of the items on my list that I am currently working on

  1. Learn to swim (Joanne and I signed up for swimming lessons)
  2. Spend 3 months getting my body in optimum shape. (I started detoxifying my body this week, getting ready for it). I start in October wish me luck!
  3. Learn how to ride a bike. (Now that my friend Rhynita is leaving New York, I really need to get on that). I’m gonna miss that girl.
  4. Be the boss (currently working on something with a push from Rhy, Joanne and Chearine).
  5. Learn to do my own makeup.
Hoping to get all 5 done before the new year.
Sidenote: My new boss is a stickler for proper grammar and consistency in writing, ironically this is helping me with writing this blog. For the first time in my life, someone is forcing me to work on my writing. It’s funny how people can influence certain aspects of your life when you never though they would or should.
Anyway, I’m off to work on item # 5 with Nikki 🙂
Happy weekend!

Wished he wore his ring

I started a new job a couple of weeks ago, aside from the excitement of doing something new and working in a new environment I also got my first work related eye candy. When I first saw him, I was so excited that finally I was somewhere where the men looked good. For two weeks, I oogled, smiled to myself when he walked by, felt like a school girl. That is until today when my fantasy became reality. Dude is… married… with a son…

Why do married men choose not to wear their wedding ring? It truly give us single women false hope. 😦

Regardless I had two weeks of eye candy. Tomorrow when I see him, it will be like seeing the now familiar red colored walls. Talk about a flaccid penis moment.

Indigo Charlie ft Khleo – Never Change RMX (I’ll Never Change)

I have two beautiful nieces and a god-son and those kids saved my sanity on more than one occasion. Last year they spent 5 days with me right after christmas where they almost drove me mad, made me forget about my problems and made me laugh. It was nice. It was around that time that I stumbled on Indigo Charlie and Khleo. Two unsigned artists with great talents. I must have played their song Never Change a thousand times. To the point where Ana aka nana then 2 years old repeated the chorus and sang along whenever I sang it out loud. I’ll never change, I’ll never change, I’ll never change.

Her outfit + hair= badass

Hail to the V!

While enjoying a matinee with my dear friend Joanne, a new Summer’s Eve commercial was played and I couldn’t help but laugh. It essentially tells women that a woman’s vagina is the most powerful thing in the universe and to make sure to show it some love by using Summer’s Eve. Who knew that the song that my mother and sisters have been singing to me for years would make it to the big screen ;). Below is the video, enjoy!

Naturally Curly NYC Pool Party

Last saturday, my baby sister, Rhy and I headed over to the naturallycurly.com Pool party where we sipped on drinks, met fellow natural divas, ate and got advice on how to maintain our mane. There I was introduced to Ouidad, a curly hair product, I never heard of before. One of the consultants talked to us about which of their products worked best for our hair and even did demonstration on Tina’s hair (baby sis). Thankfully our goodie bag included their climate control heat & humidity gel, and after trying it out I must say, I LOVE IT!!! Below are pics from the event. Go to http://www.ouidad.com to look up their products and tutorials.

   

Life’s lessons for your 20s

20 THINGS I WISH I’D KNOWN AT 20

1. Consider the source. If you’re worried about someone who dislikes you, first ask yourself whether they’re an asshole. If you don’t like them, and they don’t like you, that’s not a problem. That’s a mutual understanding.

2. Get off the couch. If you find yourself playing hard to get, don’t pretend to be busy. Just be busy.

3. Don’t waste your time. If you haveto play hard to get, move on. You’ll know when you’ve found a healthy relationship because it won’t confuse you.

4. When in doubt, shut up. Silence is a smart negotiation tactic, the best option when you’re processing how to respond, and always more productive than lying about what you’re thinking.

5. Don’t complain. Maybe venting makes you feel better, but letting off steam can also lull you into maintaining the status quo. Unfortunately, the status quo is pissing you off, which is why you’re whining in the first place. If you’re frustrated, turn that energy toward fixing your problems, not bitching about them.

6. Don’t obsess. Worrying is complaint’s ugly cousin. Either use that energy to change your situation, or relax.

7. Find an age-appropriate style.No one wants to see a 20 year old in beige slacks and a wool blazer. Buy trendy clothes, wear the slutty dress, do something ugly with your hair. Be part of your generation, so you can laugh at the photos later.

8. Be polite. It keeps doors open, lessens the potential for misunderstandings, and increases the odds of getting invited back to the beach house.

9. But defend your boundaries.When someone isn’t taking no for an answer, clarify what you want, and then respond forcefully. Being polite to someone who isn’t hearing you is naive.

10. You look good. There’s no such thing as the hottest person in the room. Everyone is attracted to something different, so just take those odds and run with them.

11. Being nice is overrated. In fact, “nice” is the least interesting thing someone can say about you.

12. Keep it to yourself. “She seems nice” is an excellent thing to say about someone you don’t like. Particularly in the company of people you don’t know.

13. Know your audience. When you’re telling a story and someone interrupts you, let them.

14. Let your passion shape your profession. You know that thing your dad says? “If work wasn’t hard, they wouldn’t pay you to do it.” Please. There are professional rock stars, astronauts, puppy trainers, and bloggers.

15. Sex is personal. Don’t bother with one-night stands if they’re not your thing, and don’t judge people for enjoying them (or not). Waiting to sleep with someone doesn’t make you an uptight prude, and jumping into bed doesn’t make you a spontaneous adventure seeker.

16. Focus. The saying, “what you’re thinking about is what you’re becoming” isn’t just chilling, it’s a universal law. Be aware of how you’re investing your attention – including your words, and your actions.

17. Cut yourself a break. Don’t offer a running commentary on your own faults. When you do, the people around you listen. Give yourself space to change your character.

18. Don’t be intimidated. World travelers are just people who bought plane tickets. Pulitzer Prize winners are people who sit alone and write. You can break the most profound accomplishment down to a series of mundane tasks.

19. Choose good company. Ask yourself if a person makes you better or drains your life force. If the answer is B, you’re busy next time they call. And the time after that.

20. Enjoy your body. Odds are you’re more beautiful now than you will be again. Ask your roommate.

Ashley Graham Interviews Sabina and Alyona from Ford+ Models

Being skinny should never be the goal, being aware of your flaws and still accepting them should be the norm.  Realizing that this is your body and being happy with what you have is the right way of thinking. You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.

Man(woman)’s guide to Love

The romantic, the naive or the optimistic in me always has and always will believe in love. Maybe its all of those cheesy french novels my mom let me read at 10 because she didnt care what I read just as long as I read. But as I’ve gotten older my view on its existence has not changed, its just shifted. Learned a lot from listening to friends and family members and also from my own observation. Now that I know and I have an idea what love is and all about, I wish that it didnt take me so long to find out.

Today while browsing the internet instead of studying for my exam, I came accross without looking , just like the best love, this site, which is set up to help guide men when it comes to love. Real men from different backgrounds and different ages give their advice based their own experience.  Although it is dedicated to men, I really think women can benefit from it as well.  My favorite advice from it is ” there are no rules,  just listen to your heart”. http://www.themansguidetolove.com/#

Vishuddha: Dalai Lama’s 18 rules for living

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk

2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

3. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others, Responsibility for your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone every day.

9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go some place you’ve never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. 

This means everything, thank you Dalai Lama 🙂

Self Discovery

Dear diary, its been a while since I’ve written an entry. I’ve been mute, keeping my feelings hidden, even from you.  Self love and search for true happiness have been my goal, always coming up empty and unsatisfied. This constant battle with myself and coming to terms with what has, is and will happen to me is getting old and I am tired. I realized that I am more in control of when and what makes me happy. Everything is clear now.

“I have prayed many prayers asking for things to change. I have begged that my body change, that other people change, that jobs change, and that my lifestyle change. With each of these prayers brought me father away from the truth because they were coming from a place of resistance.

The truth is that life is what it is, and the judgements about things being good or bad are simply illusions. One day it dawned on me that what I needed wasn’t for things to changes, but for me to have abillity to see things (especially myself) CLEARLY.

The more clearly I see, the more I am able to see who I really am, and the life that wants to be lived through me. Seeing clearly has given me the courage to take the actual steps to live this life rather than continue to resist life and its natural course.

Be clear about what you are true beautiful and inifinite light. As you are clear about who you are, you can see other things clearly and accept them for exactly what they are and realize how beautiful it is.”

Beautifully written by Kali Shirley  http://www.soulistichealing.blogspot.com



Centerlight Pop Wednesday: Bakari Sellers

Today’s Centerlight Pop goes to Bakari Sellers. I first learned his name while reading a magazine, not sure which one, but what stuck out was his name and that he is a 20 something man making a difference in his community.  I had to learn more about him, so I did what everyone in this generation does, I googled him and looked for him on facebook. I needed to know more, and what I discovered made him even more intriguing. At the age of 22 he was elected in the South Carolina House of Representative. He holds a JD from the University for South Carolina and from his recent facebook status updates he is actively involved in school reforms and spends a great deal of time speaking to students and participating in debates on how to improve the ever failing public school system.  Reading about him inspired me to work harder towards my goals.

Bakari has been to  the white house as a guest and has met the current president and he isn’t bad looking either.

To read more on Sellers:

http://www.scstatehouse.gov/members/bios/1648863439.html

Color me black/brown/yellow/mocha/white

” You know I would talk to you if you were lighter, if your nose wasn’t so wide and if your lips weren’t so big”

Those words stung and crushed the little girl I was at 13. That comment came from a boy I had a HUGE crush on who I was hoping one day would ask me to be his girlfriend. I will never forget those words and how they made me feel. It took me a while to realize that not everyone is going to have the same opinions as me on who and what  is beautiful. I realized that trying to fit into a mold no matter what you think you are suppose to look like is toxic and exhausting. So regardless of how you look whether you are black/brown/yellow/mocha/white, you are beautiful.  Everyone has their own struggle and beauty isn’t only skin deep. Believing that first is key, everyone else will follow.

I came across these pics of “ethnic” dolls and made me think of the Band, as a few of my friends were called when we went to Toronto.

Check out how fly those outfits and the confidence those dolls are exuding.  I decided to name each doll after the members 🙂

From left to right:

Cheray, Rhy, Winnie, Toni, Q.

Centerlight Pop Wednesday: Misty Copeland

Happy hump day everyone! I always loved wednesdays! Because I always knew that once wednesday came, Friday was just around the corner. So to make hump day even more interesting and exciting, I decided to have centerlight pop wednesdays! Every wednesday I will talk about anyone or anything centerlight pop ready, as in buzz worthy in my eyes.

This week’s centerlight pop goes to Misty Copeland, who at the age of 13 started taking ballet lessons and quickly became an award winning dancer at 15. Considered to be a prodigy she became the third black female soloist for the American Ballet Theater. When I first heard about her and her accomplishments I was happy and then sad that it took this long for that to happen. Misty Copeland is 28 years old and is only the third ballerina at the ABT to be a soloist? Oh my, times haven’t changed as much as I hoped now have they?

Doesn’t this picture make you want to start yoga and become more flexible? Just AH-MAY-ZIN!

Below is her blackberry commercial

I Don’t Look Haitian you say?

One of the many things that annoy me, bother me is people’s misconceptions about Haiti, Haitians and what life is like in Haiti. The latest side-eyed worthy comment was ” are you sure you ate that in Haiti and not in America” after sharing my love of french pastries. But who can blame him? People only go by what the media provide for them. To prove my point I googled Haiti images and every image that came up was naked children, hungry children, children in crowded schools, homeless people, military, foreigners feeding hungry naked children in Haiti. Before I lost my mind, I screamed and I found a poem written by Prosper Sylvain Jr,  a fellow Haitian expressing the same anger, and discontent as me. His poem speaks on how Haitians are portrayed and what it really means to be Haitian.


You approached me with a smile on your lips
and slapped me five, gave me jive
and a pound of your ignorance
by telling me that I don’t look Haitian.
You shook my hands to welcome me,
and then shook my soul with your audacity,
stating that I don’t sound Haitian.

You asked me if I was sure I was from Haiti
when you are not sure where you are from
and you carry this mentality
to the doorsteps of your white houses
and your media coverage
showing me impoverished
barefoot and hungry
seeking food and water in the slums,
you show the negative of my voodoo drums
in a light of despair.

I don’t look or sound Haitian?
Why?
Is it because I do not have the seawater of Biscayne Bay
dripping from my tattered clothes,
or is it because I am not as dark as you perceived me to be,
did I mess up your entire theory of relativity,
to hell with Einstein, you need to press rewind
so you can see that all relatives of Haitians are not hungry, dark and
comely, like the tents of your media’s Kadar.

I don’t look Haitian you say?
Is it because you did not catch me with a bucket on my head
working in some factory with an accent on my tongue until I’m 40,50,60
dead tired, no I think your notion of me should have expired a loooooong
time ago.

I apologize if there is more to me than voodoo dolls,
and I apologize if there is more to my country than slums, poverty and
hunger, and I apologize if my poetry makes you wonder
if I am really Haitian, product of years of miscegenation.

I apologize if your idea and concept of me
is not what I have proven to be,
100% dark skinned, accent on my tongue,
with an apprehension to stand straight or look you in the eye, no fear
of being hung.

I’m sorry if you thought you’d find me in some sugar cane field,
I know how many of your own people must feel,
catching me with a pen and a college degree in my hand instead of a
machete, turning your lies and stereotypes into silly confetti, you see,
I AM Haitian, doctor, lawyer, teacher, accountant, nurse, and engineer,
my goodness, I think we have instilled an absolute fear deep within your
socio-political pseudo-humanitarian heart, because we have evolved from
your views of primitive art because we were the ones to draw the freedom
chart, is this why you want to keep us apart?

Because we don’t look like what you expected us to be?
Or are you still upset because we declared we were free after riding the
freedom train to it’s 1,804th last stop, upset still because we made the
world’s mouth drop?
Extra! Extra! Read all about it!
Haitians have declared themselves free.

Napoleon and Leclerc embarrassed internationally!
Haiti becomes the original Statue of Liberty!
Denmark Vesey inspired by Ayiti!
Gabriel Prosser inspired by Ayiti even he used August as the month for
his rebellious activity!

Extra! Extra! Read All About It!
We held truths to be self evident before the first shackle, built an
above ground railroad way before Harriet went Underground spoke to
American pharaohs like Moses to let our people go, stood side by side
with Arawaks and Tainos yes, we invoked our Petros AND Shangos, spoke
with the same tongue as Patrick did, give ME liberty or give me death
and before your 13 colonies we built our capital of freedom on 15 hills
of wealth and called it Port of Princes.

I don’t look Haitian (sarcastically)
and you don’t look American,
you don’t look like the indigenous Indian
but you do look like an international comedian
because you’ve got jokes and jokers in your white house
and punch lines filled with coke lines in your congress
political white lies that are blasphemous
stand up comedy in your judiciary that needs to understand that they
need to stand and step down
running your house like a circus with father and son clowns.

My country is a country of rainbows,
mixtures of Arabs, Africans, French and Italianos
side by side with Polish and Jewish
and we all have a fetish
to always be known as Haitian
and not your amalgamation and misrepresentat ion.

I don’t look Haitian (sarcastically)
with my multi-lingual self, English, Yiddish, Kreyol, French and Spanish
filled with powerful history I look so Haitian that you fear me.
Vespuccian sons and daughters,
CAN YOU HEAR ME???!!

Look past my face into my heart and you WILL see,
My only nationality IS defined in three letters.
I E T!