There are times when I think back about how love used to be when I was younger. I know that 24 isn’t old but frankly its been a while since someone wrote me a love note, a love poem, gave me a card just because. Whatever happened to that? Why did the love notes and sweet letters stop? They are still the way to my heart. I wish men and women realized that sweet words have more weight than how much money a person has, or how much swag they have. These days all I get is guys who think that telling me about their jobs and how much money they make is somehow supposed to impress me. I would love to meet someone who for once would be himself and try to be romantic. No I am not expecting to be serenaded but opening doors, pulling out my chair and trying to get to know me better, taking me out somewhere other than the movies or dinner, would be nice. Out of my group of friends, I am the “Charlotte” as in the romantic who always believes in prince charming and waiting for him to sweep me off my feet. When I saw “Love Poem medley” I fell in love with the words. Gentlemen please take note and express yourself to your lady. Ladies please appreciate them when they do.
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Agreed. With the boom of txting and social media it seems as though men (and women alike) have lost the knack for personal communication. Not that a heartfelt BBM or 2 isn’t nice… it’s just not the same and never will be. How long can one save a txt or post for in hopes of reading it months later and recalling those same emotions that were felt when reading it for the first time? Awhile I suppose- or the life of the cell phone/laptop. It really truly is the little things. I think we need to take it back… in order to move forward.
Am I the only one who goes back into their saved bbm and text convos and reads them over and over again? LOL…it’s not quite a letter and of course not the same, but it’s a nice, neat way to see what that person wrote and what I gushily replied back. Aww
Thanks NK for your comment and I agree. I miss those hand written letters. I really do. But as my friend Joel commented, black women are at a disadvantage because we outnumber the number of good available black men. They in turn feel that they just dont need to try as hard. Sad…
REALLY? I have to humbly disagree with your friend Joel. Black women aren’t disadvantaged at anything. There’s a someone for everyone and I think a GOOD black women can get a GOOD black man. I’ve heard that quote before and it irks me. Makes me question the number of GOOD black women. Cause a half-assed woman shouldn’t be looking for a WHOLE man (and definitely vise versa). And sometimes the answer isn’t always in a good BLACK man. Not to say that I know what you should be looking for- it’s just lowering your chances of encounters if your vision is narrow from jump. I hope I don’t get yelled at for this one :s
I couldn’t agree more! I remember a few years ago telling someone that I would appreciate a letter much more than a gift because words are forever. I am not saying that if someone gave me a gift it wouldn’t mean anything, but the letter weighs a lot more deep in my heart. I love a lot… and I love to love; there is nothing better than feeling and being loved. I don’t know where the real romance is in our generation, but I don’t think it is completely dead; I just think that it is dormant. We are so into fashion and money that we don’t appreciate the “little things” as much as we should. Little do we know that those “little things” mean much more than the material. I still have a little bit of hope deep in my he
The little things definitely have more weight than a present. But i do say that if you want a man to do those for you, you should start doing them to him and he will follow if he truly cares.
I meant to say I still have a little bit of hope deep in my heart even though sometimes it seems like it will never happen… I still have faith.
Girl, times are changing. Gone are the days of hand-written letters, poems and other expressions of affection. You want a guy to write to you, look out for a comment on your wall post or a tweet. (Ha!)
But you’re right, I haven’t gotten a hand-written anything since 4th grade Math class. However, I won’t just say men are lacking showing expression in this way. Everyone is. Blame technology. I’m sure the true devoted romantics and the lovers of literature will and still write poems for their loved ones–or they just “Hallmark it.” I would love that too!!
P.S– you are the Charlotte, but as naive, hmm I don’t know
P.S.S– you know, I wrote *ahem* an original poem/piece for his birthday. He loved it. My point is, when you really like someone, little forgotten things such as hand written poems and letters will come in mind. Add them in the “inexpensive gift category.” It only costs a penny people. Penny for your thoughts!
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Tonixoxo, yes I am the charlotte but def not ass naive. Your story goes to show that women too should write love letters. Making someone feel special is almost as rewarding as receiving a nice note or poem.
PS love your blog;)
Absolutely loved “A love Poem Medley”. Everyone wants to be in love but most are afraid to love once they have it. It’s not their fault they’re scared because love can be tourtous. The poem says, he wants to be her ex-man’s stunt double so he can do all the things he didn’t have courage to do, like Trust her. I believe that once you trust someone you’ll be able to put scared away and truly love & be loved. The sweet notes & the chivalry will come along when you stop preparing for the hurt & just revel in the love.
P.S. I still send hand written love letters.
Where is mine miss RhynitaO? I will impatiently wait for one from you ❤